How we regulate our emotions is an important aspect of how much we are affected by positive and negative events.
Research has shown that life events or situations do not directly affect wellbeing but are mediated by cognitive processes, such as emotion regulation.
In other words: that situations are “processed”.
One study looked at the relationship between emotional intelligence, life satisfaction, and subjective happiness. More specifically, the study explored two emotion regulation strategies, namely savouring and dampening.
It was found that individuals with greater emotional intelligence had greater life satisfaction and subjective happiness. Moreover, these people used more savouring and less dampening strategies, which increased their subjective happiness.