Making an effort goes a long way when building a strong bond. Small gestures make your partner feel appreciated and loved. Surprise your partner with a fun gift or help them out with something that’s important to them.
Journaling for romantic relationships makes you aware of the good moments together.
Giving and receiving kindness is pure happiness. Often, the greatest pleasures in life are the result of small, kind actions.
Small acts of kindness take little effort, yet show our appreciation. Smile at your partner, make genuine compliments or write them a note. There are plenty of ways to show you care for each other.
In this study, Dr. Aron developed 36 questions to increase intimacy, which participants had to ask and answer. This was followed by silently gazing deeply into each other’s eyes for three minutes.
Participants were found to experience greater closeness to each other when compared to a control group. “Eye contact is a way of feeling connected, and feeling that [another person] is interested in you has a huge effect of feeling love for a person,” says Dr. Aron.
If you want to give the questions a try, you can find them here. (1)
Sharing is caring
Having a routine is comfortable, but don’t forget to bring the fun back with some variety. There are plenty of new things you can try out together or discover about each other.
Sharing experiences is the foundation of intimacy and it’s easy. For example, send your partner a song you’re currently listening to. Whether you’ve been together for a month or a year, continue to share and grow closer.
(1) Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363–377.